This month marks such big milestones and we will celebrate each and every one! This month marks six months since we met our son. Yea. Feel free to take a minute and let that one soak in. It is that awesome. Six months ago we walked into this generic building, waiting with palpable anticipation. We wondered how in the world we’d feel when we saw him, when we held him, if he’d even let us hold him. We simply had no idea what would happen and then she walked in holding the most beautiful baby in the whole wide world and I thought my heart would burst out of my chest! In that moment he may have still been an orphan on paper but he was ours and oh man, I was his!
This month marks six months since we signed all the papers and the orphan legally became our son, FOREVER our son! A child who had been left alone, a child who’d had to learn to receive affection amidst so many other sweet babies had his very own Mama and Baba all to himself… for a couple of weeks anyway! This month marks six months since we stepped off a plane and that boy who’d had no rights received freedom as a full citizen of the USA! This month marks six months since we stepped off another plane and that boy got a sister and brother who are convinced that there is no baby better in the whole world!
This month marks six months since Lucas has officially and physically been a part of our family. I cannot even remember what in the world we did before he came to us. We have settled into something that is still forming into our new normal. He falls asleep easily almost every time. He is pretty scheduled and predictable. He doesn’t grieve hard crying off and on throughout every night like he used to but sleeps peacefully almost every night. He no longer overeats and lets us know when he’s hungry and when he’s all done. He is hilarious and smart. He is brave and ridiculously determined. He’s independent and loving.
He just fits.
That may sound so weird and people told me it would happen but I didn’t know what that would be like anymore than I knew how I’d feel when I first saw him but he fits in our family perfectly. He’s a perfect mix of Gavin’s fierce adventurous spirit and Madeline’s trusting and friendly one.
The other morning Chris and I followed him as he ran, yes ran, through the halls after having a check up with one of his doctors. In that moment I was just astounded at the changes that have taken place in these months.
“That’s not even the same kid we took into Children’s that first time.” we laughed.
He’s not either. Here are just a few things that are so very different after six months:
TWO inches of length
THREE new words
FIVE new teeth
EIGHT new pounds
LOTS of hair
CONSTANT running and climbing
The biggest difference, however, is not something that can be measured in this same way. The biggest difference I see when I look at my son is the confidence with which he carries himself. He KNOWS he belongs here. He communicates his needs to us with confidence that we will meet them. He greets us with enthusiasm and a confidence that we are equally enthusiastic about seeing him. He falls and runs straight to our arms with confidence that there he will find comfort. He expresses his dissatisfaction when he doesn’t get his way which he didn’t feel confident enough to do six months ago. As his confidence has grown in us, his confidence has grown in himself too.
We could not love our little guy any more than we do and we consider ourselves the luckiest family in the world to get to love him!