Today I had to take Lucas into the post office. Of course there was a line and Lucas felt like being two and well, no one can blame him. He fidgeted, tried to crawl around on the floor, threw a few goldfish crackers, and did not want to be held. While I wrestled him waited I chatted with a kind lady behind me. Her daughter recently adopted and so we were talking about all the many things that come with international adoption. She asked me something that has actually been on my mind lately.
“What has surprised you most since you adopted him?”
There have been a few surprises since we adopted Lucas. We didn’t know that he had unilateral hearing loss and that was definitely a surprise. St. Louis is home to one of the nation’s best schools for deaf and hard of hearing children. That was also a surprise. Sometimes the body doesn’t heal properly and things that should be done with one surgery take three. That was a surprise too. Yet, none of these things even come close to what has surprised me most since adopting Lucas.
The thing that has surprised me most since we adopted Lucas is how totally completely mind blowing crazy we all are about him! When I see him with Chris and he displays his feisty little temper and Chris’s eyes meet mine and we just can’t handle it. We laugh and all we can say is that we love him so much. He leads Madeline around like he owns her. She willingly follows him doing whatever he wants. I don’t think a day has passed that Gavin has not thanked God for his “silly little brother.”
I remember the day I gave birth to Gavin. I worried that I wouldn’t be able to love him as much as I loved Madeline. All the “been there done that” moms assured me that I would but it wasn’t until I held him in my arms that I knew that a family’s love is never divided to become less, instead it somehow grows beyond my wildest dreams! Just like every first time parent says “I never knew I could love so much” that is the thing that has surprised me most since we adopted Lucas. Every single day I am surprised that I love him so much and it’s pretty amazing.
I’ve been trying to share some photos for a couple of months but was having some difficulty with my site. I think it’s resolved so here are some from the last few months.
Lucas LOVES to dance! He loves the Wiggles and we watch it pretty much every day and dance with him. He’s got a few favorite songs and often requests “toot too chugga chugga” also known as “Big Red Car.” This was his dance celebrating his birthday.
We celebrated as a family on his big day and gave him his very first cell phone and a tricycle.
We had just enough daylight to go out and let the kids play and teach Lucas what to do with his tricycle.
The weekend after his birthday we had a small party with extended family and friends. Sissy dressed in full pirate gear to celebrate her baby brother properly. Memaw, Papaw, Uncle Brad, Aunt Kasey, Naomi and Heidi all came from out of town to celebrate too! Lucas spent most of the party carrying a big sword, playing in the water area of the park and practicing his duck face but did take a minute to enjoy some cake too.
This little guy is such an incredible joy. He’s feisty, funny and fabulous and we thank God every day that we get to be his family!